Let's get serious ...

I got one for the ladies and then one for the men.  See if you can follow me...

Yeah gurl its a beautiful day, heading out to the malls to do some shopping.  Gotta make sure I look good.  And you know I put on my best Coach outfit, purse and shoes to match!  Yeah you know all of it is a knock off but for the price I paid girlfriend, I'm a go ahead and front like it's real 'cause you know I don't care what nobody says about what I put on!  OH SNAP... can't find a baby sitter so I'll just put them in anything 'cause I want all eyes on ME!  I need a new man on the side to spend his money on me and I want to just tease the rest of the men cause I know I'm the hottest eye candy steppin' out today.

Alright hold up right there!  How in the hell can you go and buy YOU all kinds of knock off gear and tote your children in Goodwill clothes?  Let me guess, your delinquent on a few utility ends as well right?  Get your priorities right.  Your children should come first and foremost and that means PAY YO BILLS!  And I don't mean the Cricket bill either!

Oh I need to put in a day off so I can be alone in the house w/out the ball-n-chain and crumb snatchers. I want to sit back and play PS3 all day and then head out to the movies and hit the clubs by myself.  Yeah I do play PS3 soon as I get home and watch TV all night after work, they know my routine.  No interaction w/ the kids at all.  And the only interaction I need w/ the wifey is when I need to get my stick wet!  Let me tell you about these tight dress shoes that I just put on lay-a-way and will be picking up on payday for me.  Someone asks "did you see anything for the wife or kids?"  He replies "I didn't get shit for those crumb snatchers.  I take them out for pizza with the rat for their birthdays, and buy them school clothes when it's time.  And the ball and chain is luck I stay with her as it is now.  The only reason I do stay is because of the crumb snatchers, don't need them taking what little money I got now just for leaving her fat ass."

Yo, you need to pump the breaks on that mess buddy boy!  Those crumb snatchers, as you like to call them, didn't ask to be here!  Would it kill you to take them out even if it's one at a time?  You make sure the first thing out your next check is to get you some shoes.  You even go as far as to take a day off to be alone.  What the hell did you get married for then?  Does the word 'family' mean nothing to you?  Don't get me wrong I understand that taking out the entire family is taxing now a days, but that money you put on the lay-a-way off the top of your check could go to a night out with the fam.  And would it kill you to try and take a day off to reconnect with your wife, excuse me 'ball and chain'?  Isn't that why you work outside the house, to get away and now you need more time?  If I was your child I would run away from home!  You don't pay the kids no mind and for damn sure don't bring them anything in just to say I saw this and thougth that you should have it. 

Let's try this... you know the old parent speech that is given before walking into any stores "don't touch shit, don't ask for shit, cause you don't need shit!"  The next time you go to step out at the mall think of that!  Now I'm sure I pissed off quite a few out there because I have no children and wouldn't understand.  Hell, without kids I understand plenty!  If I know that a bill needs to be paid and I seen some shoes that I want guess what my ends go to FIRST - the bills.  Those out there having babies and not wanting to set the example of putting them first by taking care of the priorities of putting food in their bellies, shelter over their heads and (decent) clothing on their backs really and spending quality time with them to make sure they grow up to be upstanding adults with a good starting foundation need to step back and think.  I know a single parent, who took 2 kids EVERY Saturday morning to the movies and then out to lunch.  She made sure that out of her busy week she set aside extra quality time with her children not just sit in bed all day on the weekend.  And still does to this day!  There are men that acutally sit down with their child to do homework.  It is possible to live with out the latest of anything and make due with what you got.  Try it sometime you just might find out that your still living.  I wish I had a child to spoil rotten and some day I'm sure that I will.  But until then ...  QP