Ladies are trying to find that perfect man for marriage only to settle or just give up on finding true love at all. No man is perfect, hell neither is any woman for that matter. Your flaws for that picture perfect man of your dreams may not be his perfect bride. If you keep dreaming of that perfect man that you believe you want, you will either end up with a nightmare or worse... settled. You have to keep in mind that every man brings something different to the table. One may be a better lover, another a better kisser or just plain better all around. But you want to be stuck on that perfect height, weight and personality. STOP LOOKING! If I learned anything in my marriage, I found that the man I am with is nothing that I pictured or dreamed that I wanted. He's better! You have to open your mind as well as your heart and really listen to your heart on what is best for you. Your eyes will let you down time and time again. Oh yeah, he might look good and drive a nice whip,and look like he got it all put together but behind closed doors he could be the one that knocks you around or on the down low. I know that at the end of the day I didn't settle... I upgraded and separated the boys from the men and found true love. I found the one that can compliment me in all I do just as I do for him. Don't give up looking just stop looking, wake up from that dream and come back to reality. ~QP
Yo, after reading this, you aren't lying at all. As much as I want my perfect woman, I have to take what is given to me. Not saying that I am going to settle, but a good woman is hard to find. If you can get past the little bull shit, you might have already found that right person. Good shit, my Durty Truth partner.
ReplyDeleteTruly stated QP. Our problem is that we don't know how to wait. We hurry into certain situations & relationships because what's on the surface is appealing to us. If we wait, the grit & grimey-ness that lies below the surface will surely come up & when we see it, we can make a conscious decision to let that thing go. It's when we get caught up too soon, that we can't let go or disconnect. Far too many women don't know their 'true value' so they just settle for less than the best. I had to learn the hard way about settling. I settled because I was in love with the 'idea' of being married to my kids' dad & being a family more than I was in love with him and it indeed turned out to be painful! However, I learned a lot and that's what is important. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteLooking for the "perfect one" will always be a trip down a dark windind, curving road. Accepting others for who they are is the greatest gift you can give yourself or another person. You will do yourself a huge favor by letting them be themselves whatever that may be. When you love you, you can be confident and see anothers confidence which will tell you the majority of what you need to know upfront about the individual. When ppl have insecurities no matter what they are or stem from this is unresolved issues that will effect you. I used to be very insecure because of the lack of my own personal affirmations for the women I was and am. This caused me to turn some decent to semi good men bad. Just like a man can scorn a women, a women can scorn a man.
ReplyDeleteI would advise women if you really dont love yourself and constantly compare yourself to other women or cant name 5-10 things you love about yourself in 5 min or less (please search 4 what u r made of), YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP UR INSECURITIES ARE NOT THAT MANS PROBLEMS, A REAL MAN WILL KEEP IT MOVING AFTER A WHILE!!!DONT MESS UP MR RIGHT FOR YOU!!!!!!!